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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]this is written very....oddly, which I get in that you're trying to protect identities.

But as the PP said, not sire why this is the one thing you're worried about.

You yourself typed that there is a lengthy history of physical aggression against this one target.  So why do you think it's suddenly escalated?  Because it's finally serious enough for you all to have figured it out?  The poor girl has been abused for years.  FOR YEARS.

It seems common that an abuser might target one particular child for worse abuse than others.  That seems to be the situation you have.  I'd focus on the abused victim, the other victims (who have ben abused even if they've just merely watched the abuse) and the future victim - the next person that becomes the target.    [/quote]

OP here - thank you, I do appreciate this perspective. Yes, I'm changing some details in addition to omitting others since the families are local.

Our young relative explains that the long-term abuse was painful, but not dangerous. Her mother kicked, hit, punched, etc. The most recent incident was quite dangerous, and could have resulted in long-term effects. Our relative views it as an escalation.

Therapists have told us that the why isn't important, but now that the dust has settled, my young relative is internalizing the recent event. In the end, of course, the escalation gave her the courage to confide in us, which led to her removal from her family home. I see a productive outcome, but I'm naturally concerned about future developments. It's unsettling, knowing now what her mother is capable of doing, and wondering what she might do in the future.[/quote]

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