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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My WAG: Abusers are generally attempting to control people; as they fear losing control more, they escalate. The more out of control/threatened they are, the less able to maintain a facade...the more things "leak".

I also think you are very incorrect about the motivation - the motivation likely has much more to do with finding the child in some way threatening (not that the child is actually threatening) to the mother and/or her self image, and also seeing an opportunity to exert even more control.

Of all the things to ask/wonder about with this situation, this one seems...strange.  Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it  (involve yourself) beyond providing the child a safe escape and access to resources.  She needs professional help handling the effects of the abuse.  [/quote]

Thank you for this response. We've been dealing with this issue for a few months now. Therapists and family counselors have been very helpful. I understand that my young relative's healing process is just beginning.

Although what you write echoes what we've heard from therapists, I remain perplexed about this sudden and drastic change. She clearly viewed her daughter as a threat prior to this recent event. To protect our young relative's privacy, I'm withholding a number of details about this situation. Suffice it to  say that the sudden escalation is mystifying.

Would you clarify your comment "seeing an opportunity to exert even more control"?

I should note that we're not concerned about the mother trying to undermine us, although she's unhappy with our support for her daughter. What we are concerned about is how this will play out for her daughter - who is still quite vulnerable - in the future.[/quote]

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