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[quote=Anonymous]long story short - my dad is kind of an asshole.  my mom seeks attention from my sister and me that my dad should give her.  this has happened my whole life.  i am now 42yo, married, with two young kids, work full time.

my mom is constantly calling/texting me when she is sick (which multiple times a year), telling me all about her symptoms, doctors appointments, meds that she takes, etc.  sinus infection, stomach flu, asthma, allergies, etc etc.  you get the picture.  she wants my sympathy.  for many years, i gave it.  then, as more years went on, i became concerned that maybe she was dying or something.  then, a few years ago, i came around to the fact that she was in fact not dying, is a person that gets sick a lot and she reaches out for attention because my dad doesn't give it to her (he has no patience for people who get sick.  like i said, kind of an asshole).

so this week my mom has some sort of virus, first i get a text that they think this is the second time she has gotten the flu this year (turns out it isn't), she is running a daily fever, blah blah blah.  today she has tried to call me twice and just texted me that she has an appetite today and even though she still has a 100 degree temperature maybe things are breaking.  UGH UGH UGH!!!  i don't want these details.  i have been down this road so many times and i have just had it!!!!  i don't want to give her attention because it just encourages her to keep doing this.  but she is my mom, and is a dedicated grandmother, and i don't want to be an asshole either.  i just don't want to give the small amount of time that i do have after working and taking care of my own family to indulge in this behavior.

how do i deal with this?  i am at a loss.[/quote]

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