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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been thinking about this a lot as my strong feelings surprised me. The visit to our house on this weekend was for a completely different reason. I think her insistence on Mother's Day for me bothered me because it is part of a pattern of behavior where MIL sort of does what she wants and when she wants it. She will buy airline tickets to visit us even when DH tells her clearly that she should not do so without checking with him (we are going through some tough health issues). It also bothered me because it feels like a rejection of me as a person (strangely enough.) I come from another culture and Mother's Day is meaningless to me. Why try to force it on me? It feels like she wants to Americanize/whitewash me.. or something like that. [/quote]
I think the better approach is to celebrate holidays from both cultures. Send flowers to MIL when it's "MIL's day" in your homeland and graciously accept chocolates when it's Mother's Day. Why make MIL feel uncomfortable and  take away celebrations from your kids, when you can make MIL happy and enrich kids' lives (even with a Hallmark holiday)?[/quote]

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