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I get your underlying fear. It is true that if the sexes were reversed and a college-age guy was showing interest in your high school DD, [b]DCUM would view it as predatory without a second thought.[/b]

As a society we've been late to acknowledge that men and boys face inappropriate advances. They are viewed as "atta boy!" rather than taken more seriously. When my brother was a teen, I saw two women in their 40s deliver open and explicit invitations to him. It was horrible. He handled it well, but my god, why should he have ever been put in that situation and why did these women feel so comfortable "joking" about initiating him?

I think someone like the Rock talked about how all of his early sexual experiences were with women in their thirties. He was full grown at twelve. He wasn't bragging or asking for sympathy. It was stated as fact and the interview continued without any further comment.

I think there was also a very moving Law and Order SVU episode where an attractive young boy suffered sexual attacks from a mother at his school. It was only revealed because it was tangential to a case where someone had placed video cameras in a public toilet.

You didn't ask for advice on how to broach the subject with your DS. So, I'm just offering up sympathy here. It's not awesome. Not cool. Not something to be congratulated about. Certainly nothing to be ignored. It's foul.

Your gut response to this is absolutely correct. Your son did the right thing 1. by declining the offer, and 2. making you aware of the situation. That speaks well of your relationship with him and his personal character.

FWIW, I hear you and completely agree that this is highly inappropriate.

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A college sophomore is 19-20.  A high school junior is 16-17.  A three year age difference is hardly predatory. [/quote]

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