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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, 
Interesting perspectives (and I wonder if the responses would be different if I were a man asking about moving my family for my career opportunities).

But a note about children (who are in pk and k, so not really ensconced in school/friendships yet). Part of the move would be to have a better quality of life for them. To move to a place where the schools are excellent, neighborhoods are family friendly, walkable to lots of things and where we could spend less time commuting and more with them and all around things are more affordable. We don't have any of that right now, so we have been discussing moving anyway--but if we stayed in the area it would be to move for better schools. However, that will likely entail a worse commute for both of us.  DH is excited about the new location and all it gives us,  he is just worried about his job, which I get.

The other issue is that I'm almost a decade younger--so I will be working longer, most likely. We make about the same amount, so its not easy to figure it out.

But I do not want DH to be unhappy. I wa patient and supportive as he went through a couple years of trying to reinvent himself, of figuring out that the stuff he was trying were bad jobs,   and I know how hard it is on a marriage when a spouse--and typically the husband--feels professionally unsatisfied. I guess I feel, though, that I did stick by him, and sacrificed my opportunities so that he could get back on his feet and find his job (which actually, I found for him, believe it or not). so now, If he can work out telecommuting and have a stable job (he works for the govt, so if he can mostly telecommute i think his job would be safe) it seems like its worth exploring. I just feel like if I spend my entire career doing the exact same thing at the exact same place, with no room for growth, I will just stop trying at a certain point.  But maybe its not an either /or.

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