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[quote=Anonymous]This is a job question, but also a relationship one.

DH and I both work in DC. I have been in my job for 14 years--its the only place I've really worked, post grad school. By all accounts, an excellent position for my field, and extremely stable, but I'm really tired of it and have little opportunity to rise as my boss wont retire for another 10 years and I believe that the institution will likely, by then, want to hire a younger person to lead--I will be early 50s.

I have a lot of ambition, and a pretty good track record, so even though I'm in a specialized field, I could probably do pretty well if I worked it.  DH recently entered the federal work force, after leaving a career with diminishing options, He likes his job, is well paid and there's status. He's also early 50s and will have a hard time getting a new job I fear.  But he recently encouraged me to look for some new opportunities--in my field rare, and all out of state. So, I got 2 offers in the northeast (trust me when I say there's nothing else in DC for me), but now DH is getting cold feet about leaving (we had hoped he could telecommute, with him traveling every other week for a few days). He worries about not having 'face time' and being pushed aside in his career, or losing his job entirely. He also worries that I will feel resentful later. I had actually been recruited for a pretty great position a couple years ago, but he had just gotten his new job so we stayed put. We have young elementary school kids.  The benefit of the new place is that I'd have more creative freedom, better cost of living (somewhat) better schools. But commuting would be hard and I would not want DH to be out of work. At the same time, staying here for the rest of my career makes me want to cry.

salary for new jobs is a bump of about 15k, but not necessarily huge (and will be offset by commuting, etc).

anyone have advice or experience working through the job/life conflicts?

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