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[quote=Anonymous]My first question would be to ask what your tolerance level is for their anger and for natural consequences to their mistakes/missteps while they are learning.  You and your DH need to be together on this.  The fact that he is cleaning up their toys is not a good sign.

Using kitchen timers helps a lot with these ages.  It depersonalizes things and audible alarms help kids to remember time passing.   I would start with a few basics -- all toys need to be put away before bedtime (with a timer for when the bedtime routing begins) and any toys not put away will be put in "toy jail" for a week.  Second offense and they go away for a month.

The 11 year old can certainly start doing his own laundry.

You have to set warning timers and a final timer and be willing to let them be late for school in the morning if they don't regulate themselves and then suffer the real consequences of that -- losing play time in the afternoon, etc.

Reasonable expectations would have them both:
* Making their beds
* Tidying their rooms
* Sweeping (6 year old) and vacuuming (11 year old and maybe 6 year old depending on how heavy the vacuum is)
* Emptying dishwasher
* Hanging clothes on a line if you have one, or else switching from washer to dryer
* Setting and clearing the table
* Dusting

These should be every day tasks.  If you have a pet they could be in charge of water and food and walks. [/quote]

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