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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't slut-shame, but if a friend is constantly sleeping with dudes and then getting upset when they don't call her afterward, I might question her as to why she lets that happen?  I'm not anti-sex.  I think that if you're out for sex, then have at it.  But if you're out for a relationship and having a guy not call you makes you feel bad, then no-strings-attached sex may not be for you.

Bottom line: I want my friends to be happy.  Not sad, not depressed, not feeling insecure or upset because some dude banged them and didn't call afterward.

(I might slut-shame if a friend has a history of knowingly sleeping with married dudes.  But I would absolutely slut-shame the married dudes, too.)[/quote]

THIS. If a friend repeatedly, over the course of years, makes poor choices with men (as evidenced by the fact that she is unhappy with the outcomes of the choice) then I have in the past suggested that they make different choices.

I'm certainly not the morality police, if you're OK with their choices and they are working out for you then I'm happy for you. BUT when I'm getting a late-night, panicked, teary call to come pick you up because a hookup went wrong/you got sexual with someone you shouldn't have, I would be a pretty shitty friend to not suggest that perhaps these hookups should be happening with different/other/fewer people.  [/quote]

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