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I usually think this is a childish approach but I'm considering using the phrase on him for a bit, which may or may not let him see why I dislike it. [/quote]

Play this out OP... it's not going to work well for you. You start using the phrase, and he either:

1. Doesn't care, in which case you are still pissed and the pissiness is building up in you every time you say it, and you probably start to take on a tone every time you say it.

2. Dislikes it but doesn't say anything, in which case you're both getting silently pissed.

3. Hates it and tells you to stop, at which point you say "See! I hate it to, but you say it to me all the time," he feels cornered/like you were "trapping" him to show him how awful he is, and it turns into a fight.

I don't really think there's a way that "I'll do it to him" strategy turns out well.

Maybe just ask him again - when you asked him in the past, he obliged, but it seems he has forgotten. Some people just need to be reminded on certain topics. I swear if I have to ask my husband to wipe down around the sink one more time (how does he get water EVERYWHERE?) my head might explode... but every time I ask him sweetly, he does it and remembers for a couple weeks to do it. And then he forgets. Because he doesn't have the "eye" to see that that behavior is irritating. That's marriage.

Asking him nicely again will give you more information about if he is just forgetful on this topic or if he doesn't give a crap about your feelings. [/quote]

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