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[quote=Anonymous]It would annoy me. I'd ask my husband nicely to stop, framing it as, "Babe, I really appreciate it when you ask me to do something by saying 'Could you' instead of saying 'I need you to' - could you please try to use that wording instead? It's a small thing but makes a big difference to me."

Wouldn't make it a fight, wouldn't bring up any other things he did that annoyed me at the same time, and would be a bit overly sweet about it. That really seems to work well with my husband. He's a good guy, and he really tries when I ask him to do something like that. When I go into it with a snarly attitude, it becomes gridlock.

That said, a few times a week, I also try to ask my husband, "Is there anything I can do tonight or this weekend that would help you out?" -- again, a little 1950's housewife-ish, but it's amazing how well it goes over. And after a few months of me asking him that... he picked it up and started asking me the same question. It was great!

It isn't my nature to be super sweet or ask extremely politely (my nature is just to bark orders and "get it done!"), but when I'm conscious of it - wow, it makes a huge difference in my home and marriage.  [/quote]

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