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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First off OP, this is not a bad thing.  Another place wants you, right? It just so happens to be your old shop.

Why not go in, completely hear them out and what they have to say, and, listen to what they haver to offer?  Be open-minded.  You are in the power position here.  Just let them keep talking.  See what happens. As a last resort, you can always ask for an insane amount of money to make yet another switch back to them.  [/quote]

You're right, I totally get that. I am very appreciative. The fact is they will probably up my salary and promise me a lot but I KNOW the culture. I left because there are either men in leadership positions, women with no kids, women whose kids are grown, or women with 1 child. I have two. And I have a supportive husband, but it's tiring. There are just no role models there. I have no doubt it would be GREAT for my career, but I am not looking for that right now. I need some balance in my life.

I read Lean In and I'm a huge fan. I think it's great that women can do it all and I think some women can. I know what I can do: I can hold down a good job, doing interesting work, making good money, and be a good mom. I can't hold down a great job, with huge responsibility, and be the mom I want to be right now. And maybe if I am just honest with them they won't push it. I just know they will promise me flexibility etc., but if there is no one else working that schedule, it falls apart.

What I can't say is "I don't believe you." But I've seen it happen. I'm not in biglaw, but I've seen posts on here saying that positions like that have been scaled down, promised four days a week, promised flex time etc. but they end up always working extra. I am willing to trade off less money and less prestige for balance. I just need to grow a pair and say that I guess.[/quote]

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