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[quote=Anonymous]9 days out from the visit and all I can think about his how I have not lost the baby weight (16 month old, so no excuses) and last time my dad came he told me I needed to do something about my weight. 
I have literally laid out all my clothes for the visit, choosing my most slimming things, bought extra spanx so I have a clean pair for each outfit, planned my gym visits so he won't see me in my tight workout gear (I will come in back door and go right to bedroom), made sure we have unhealthy snacks laying around to prevent criticism. And now I just feel......sad. Sad that he comes twice a year and it has become all about hiding my fat from him. I will spend the whole time so self conscious. I will see him looking at my stomach, hear every comment as a criticism. Subtlety is not his strong suit.

And yes, underneath all this is sadness that I haven't lost the weight. Not just from the recent baby, but the others. So, I completely know he is right. I Need to do something about it. But him being right doesn't make me feel less sad about how his visit, for me, is now about this, instead of about watching him enjoy his grandchildren. I am a FT working mom of three awesome, sweet, generous kids, and I just wish I could feel that he saw all the good things I do every day, instead of just seeing my one major failing.

If anyone has any words of advice to help me change perspective, I would love to hear them. [/quote]

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