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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get where you're coming from, OP. I too think there are general rules of social interaction, and since you are the type (I am too) who wouldn't co-opt your friend's friend, for lack of a better phrase, it's off-putting when someone else does. However, clearly neither of them have a problem with it, since they are both participating in it, and so you will be left odd woman out if you bring it up. You're going to have to suck it up, not say anything, and in the future think harder about introducing some friends to others when they don't know each other.

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I must agree. I am a good friend and know it. While I understand other people might connect I am old school in that I think a little courtesy goes a long long way. To invite you just because would be a nice and appropriate thing to do. All that said, to me what would bother me most is if they were doing without telling you or purposely trying to hide it. I would respect both of them much more if either came to you and said look we really connected and we have become good friends, we still love you and value our friendship with you immensely but believe in honesty and knowing you are sensitive wanted you to know that we do occasionally get together. I would give them both a lot of credit for doing that.

I have a good friend  from grad school that I recently reconnected with as she has moved back to the area. I met someone through her and we instantly connected, we had a lot in common however I would personally still not call her to have lunch or coffee without inviting the friend that introduced us at least initially just because it feels like the right thing to do. I think you will get varying opinions on this depending on how "plugged in" people are with their closest friendship group. For me, my friends and I are extremely close so their loyalty and consideration is very important as is mine to them. I don't think it has anything to do with immaturity or being overly sensitive as much as it does being a good, honest, authentic friend.[/quote]

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