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[quote=Anonymous]I am going to do my best to condense this story. I will first tell you yes I am  very sensitive but i am also an intensely loyal and good friend to anyone who I consider a close friend.

Have had a circle of good friends two of whom I have known each about 20 years. So one of my friends D and I in recent years have grown apart a bit but still are very much there for each other. My other friend G and I are still very good friends. Their only connection is through me (or so I thought).

So D's aunt (who I knew) died recently and we went to the wake, and funeral as well as a memorial at Ds parents house afterwards. I realized at that point that D and G seemed quite friendly mostly because G knew and seemed to be friendly beyond meeting them for the first time with D's other friends. It really took me by surprise and actually hurt my feelings as well and G was just giving off vibes like she belonged there more than me, it made me feel uncomfortable and like an outsider and here it is me, who introduced her from the start. I would never have discussed it at that  point but its absolutely on my mind.

I am very much an inclusive kind of friend, I invite everyone and open my home and my heart to all friends (cannot say they do the same) however.

Since G is the more assertive one if either of them made the overtures to become better friends I would bet its her and frankly yes it really hurt my feelings which would also mean me being left out and it is through me they even met. I know there are no rules, but there are to me certain unspoken ones that most friends abide by. I would never go to a friends friend and initiate a friendship without including or at least asking the friend we have in common.

So I need/want to address it and likely will do it with G since D recently lost a relative to whom she was close and I do not want to appear insensitive. Please do not tell me I am being immature or acting like a teenager. I to the contrary am a  very good fiercely loyal friend and I already put it out there that I am sensitive. Any advice on how to approach it?[/quote]

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