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[quote=Anonymous]I was in a low-sex marriage, since divorced and not partnered with anyone.  (female, age 49, healthy, not depressed PTSD closeted etc)

[quote] Have you always been this way? If not, what caused it? [/quote]

Yes, I've always had a low-ish libido.   Growing up in a pre-Vatican Catholic sex=shame household didn't help.  But I've loooong since shed that weight (I could bang anyone I want now, 6 new people a week!) and I still, in fact, have a low libido.

[quote]Do you think you're just bored with your spouse,[/quote]
Yes.   Add familiarity with and then resentment for a spouse on TOP of a honest low-libido, and you get boredom, then contempt.   Because I, personally, almost never NEED to "get off," and I'm "not into" orgasms for the sake of the orgasms, I therefore have a real aversion to being touched by someone who infuriates me.

I can see how another type of woman would make a different calculation.  i.e.,  'he pisses me off, I hate when he does XYZ, yet I'm so, so horny and feel it building up inside.   therefore when he reaches out to me in bed, I will reciprocate because I "enjoy" the physicality of intercourse."    I've been that woman before, in my mid-20s.

[quote] or do you not have sexual desire for anyone?[/quote]

I really don't.  Once in a while, I'll encounter a hot, cocky surgeon at the hospital or a beautiful specimen of a dude when working out.   But otherwise, no.[/quote]

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