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[quote=Anonymous]My question is two-fold.

After years of denial/ rationalization, I have come to acknowledge and accept that I was a victim of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of my father - this realization occurred in September. Since then I've been processing my experiences and have come to the conclusion that for my health, I can no longer maintain a relationship with my father. By extension, I'll also be leaving behind relationships with my stepmom and two half siblings (boy, 15, and girl, 13). I'm in the process of figuring out exactly how to do this.

My sister is the "black sheep" of the family, often seen as an annoyance. She's extremely immature for her age, and whereas I was acting out at her age, she seems content to act and play like a little girl. However, in speaking with my stepmom, it sounds like my sister might be a victim of sexual abuse - presumably, at the hands of our dad. (She doesn't want her ears pierced because anything piercing her flesh would be too "violating." She threw up after seeing a sex scene on TV.) Also, the last time I visited (when she was 12) my dad went to "check on her" in the bathtub. Totally inappropriate, I thought at the time, but I was in deep denial.

My father lives very near my grandmother, and he and his siblings are tight. I would NOT be cutting off contact to start drama, but how can I do it in a way that makes sense? Do I tell my stepmom what happened? Am I obligated to protect my sister? I don't know what to do.

If you've BTDT, or have helpful advice, please contribute. I feel totally overwhelmed and don't know what to do next.[/quote]

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