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[quote=Anonymous]I will not get too specific because its certainly plausible that someone i know is reading this and knows us. My S got accepted to the ivy league school I dreamed one of my kids would one day attend.  With the ridiculous acceptance rate, we did not expect him to get in. Well he did. I don't remember the last time I was that excited, giddy if I am to be honest.

He also got into 9 of the 10 other schools he got into, all top top universities (2 more ivies as well). Yes he did very well. Well, he absolutely shocked us on Thurs. by telling us that he is not going to "dream ivy". In fact he said he is not going to any ivy. He had visited a top university that he fell in love with in the late fall. I always thought he was focusing on it because he knew it was likely he would get in yet its still very prestigious He didn't want to overshoot and be disappointed (he had a 2340 SAT) but he is extremely humble and always sees the glass half empty.

I tried not to overreact but once he left the room my jaw hit the floor. My H is the really sensible one in our household and his advice was for me to hold my tongue and let him digest all this a few days. My H is much more pragmatic about these matters but me, I am devastated I know I can see the eye rolls now, me being the helicopter mom, who wants to relive her life through her kids, yes, i get it and no, I am not going to deny it.

I did not have the opportunities he does. I was an excellent student who could have probably gone anywhere but my parents could not afford it. I eventually went to a good state school, graduated summa cum laude and went on to graduate school on my own dime. I was not into prestige (because that was not a luxury I could afford) but getting the best degree I could the cheapest way possible.

Now thankfully we are successful and can afford for all 3 of our kids to go to college, any college and he is handed the mother load and doesn't' want it! Any one else out there ever go through such an ordeal? How did you deal with it? I am fit to be tied and ready to explode and just to want to shake him by the shoulders and scream how crazy he is being. It might sound outlandish but I don't want him to later regret not taking a spot that nearly every kid dreams about. And time is ticking....[/quote]

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