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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my parents cut off contact with all of their relatives, and that meant no contact for me, too. I was curious, and connected with my father's mother when I was old enough. What happened was similar to your experience. She came to visit me from a smaller city in the Midwest. Was impressed with Arlington (where I lived at the time), and apparently decided that she was going to move to a retirement facility about a block or so away from my home. The idea was that I was going to take care of her. Luckily, her manipulations were clumsy and obvious, so I was able to extricate myself from the whole mess pretty easily. Once she saw I wouldn't be useful to her, she dropped contact entirely, and didn't even respond to holiday cards, etc.

My point is that your worries that MIL will contact your DC - probably well founded. And your concern that your DC will be curious and responsive - probably also well founded. I think you're doing the right thing in monitoring his email. If she's as devious as you describe, she's going to find a way to bypass your protections. Based on what you write about those protective measures, it should be easy.

So my recommendation is to consider a new approach to the situation. You're so anxious and upset right now that you need an unbiased person, like a therapist, who can help you find that approach. The alternative is hyper vigilance that's not going to achieve the outcome you want.[/quote]

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