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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our DS is currently in kindergarten in private school. He has a late August birthday, as does his older brother. We didn't hold either of them back. DS is extremely social and socially aware, but he isn't retaining the concepts taught for reading, writing, etc. He also has a hard time answering questions after a story has been read to the class. The teachers literally have to feed him the answers. He tends to not listen to much of our reading at home, either. When meeting with his teachers and learning about all of this, I asked if they'd ever hold him back. Originally, they said they rarely, if ever, do that, but now they're saying they would bc he's so young and they believe he'll benefit from another year. They think that he could have attention issues, but they're not sure and think a year will help us to determine if this is a maturity issue, attention issue or some kind of learning disability.

Has anyone here ever had their child repeat kindergarten at the same school where he sees his buddies move up to first grade? We're afraid of how this will affect him. I believe he could use the extra year, but also believe that his social success is important as well.

Thanks!

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We did it. We have the same thing, a DS with an August birthday. It was recommended to us at the end of K but we wanted to go through 1st which is more academic, longer days etc to really see where he was. At the end of 1st we asked them to repeat it. He was so young in that many of his friends were 12 months older, he was anxious about not getting things done as quickly as the others or as accurately. It has really helped him to have that little bit of extra time to find his way into things academically. He's now finishing 2nd grade in private school with all A grades and a great sense of achievement.[/quote]

OP, here - did your son repeat 1st at the same school, though?  The repeating to me is not the issue, it's more of the social implications of seeing his friends move up and not being with them.

Thanks!![/quote]

Hello OP.Yes it was the same school and the friends from his first 1st grade classroom were only 2 or 3 rooms away. They all saw each other at recess, lunch and at the end of the day. There were no problems. He was sad initially not to be with them in class, as were they, but he knew one girl in the new class (who had been with him in K and had repeated K) who he really liked, and he made a very good friend in the new class who is a bright boy with similar interests.

There wasn't a problem socially other than the initial feeling of starting with a room full of new faces - but each grade mixes the classes anyway so he may have been in a room of 25 where only 5 were from his original class anyway.

It seemed like a gamble worth taking. His 2nd 1st grade teacher was a lot more nurturing generally than the first one who had been going through a lot of personal issues which distracted her and meant she missed a lot of school days. The 2nd teacher was stable, kind, a clear instructor, took no prisoners with any bad behavior and never shouted at anyone. It paid off and his confidence increased.

The fear of course is that you discover its a mistake and you cannot back track. Its whether its a gamble worth taking. There is no social stigma when they are in K or 1st grade, its only when they get older and perhaps see people "kept back" by the school that it seems more problematic for them.

I hope this is a little helpful.[/quote]

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