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[quote=Anonymous]Gee, OP, it  sounds as though your son would have been a great candidate for redshirting.  It also sounds like he is a typical five year old who has been put into a very structured environment.  I am the K teacher who posted earlier.  My point was that the parents presented the retention to their son as a very positive thing and he reacted in kind.  However, your son sounds a little more mature than the one I had in my class.  He was extremely naïve.

It is rare these days for kids to repeat grades and I think you will have a hard time getting someone with that experience to respond to you on this forum.  Years ago, it was not uncommon.  I know my cousin repeated second grade, and I'm not sure it helped her academically.  She's a bright person, and I suspect that today she would have been diagnosed with a learning disability.  However, she turned out fine.  She redshirted her son (May birthday), so I'm not sure she thought it was a bad thing to repeat.

In this instance, if you think you can present it to your son as a very positive move, it probably would work.  However, controlling what other kids (his friends) say and do may not be so easy.  Does he have friends younger than he is?  That might help.

Also, FWIW--my son was a lot like yours.  He is grown now and doing fine.  He was not a late birthday and went to school "on time".  Frankly, he lived to play (he's doing fine as an adult, but he does still like to play!)  He graduated from a good college--though certainly not a top tier college.  Conversely, DD who was an outstanding student and went to a very competitive college is also fine--and, you know, they are both happy and doing well--but I wish I had been more laid back when he was not working as hard in school as I would have liked.

If your goal is for him to be at the top of the class, retention may or  may not help.  There is a place in this world for the "average" child and some of them are more successful than others.  If keeping up is a struggle--then that is a different story.  [/quote]

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