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[quote=Anonymous]#1 I apologize for the length.  #2 I am not a troll.  As I am reading what I type I agree it seems like it is made up (I wish it were).  This is why I am posting here.  I am in shock.  All of my work friends are either in my dept or in HR so I am wracking my brain thinking about who I can talk to about this IRL.

One of the admins in my unit came to talk to me about a sexual harassment situation with one of my colleagues.  She reports directly to me.  He is a level below me, but does not report to me.   He is married with kids (not that it really matters from a harassment perspective but morally it makes the situation that much worse).  He is from an office in another country and was visiting our DC office for a month. It seems the harassment has been going on for at least two weeks.  He left this weekend and she intentionally waited until he was gone to tell me.  I really wish she hadn't.

It is a classic case, he has authority over her (though she reports to me, he is part of the team therefore it was not completely out of line for him to assign her small duties), he is older than she is, and he used physical intimidation.  While he did not threaten her job, he did tell her not to tell anyone about the encounters and kept either inviting her to his office, or going to her office under the guise of work, but he would always ask her to close the door and sit or stand close to her.  Each time she spurned his advances but he was quite persistent.  Inviting her out for drinks, asking her to cancel plans to spend time with him.  She never spent time with him outside of work, never said yes to his offers to come over to his corp. apt for drinks or to go out for drinks.

She is very new to our company (3 weeks), she didn't realize it wasn't his first time in the US. We also have another colleague visiting from the same office and it was her first time in DC.  I think the she assumed it was both their first times visiting DC.  She mentioned that when they first spoke she offered to tell him fun places to visit while he was here.  She is concerned he misunderstood her intentions.  She is very young and enthusiastic but I have no reason to believe she was suggestive in any of her encounters with him and once she got the feeling her wanted something unseemly she shut him down and made up excuses for why she couldn't see him outside of work.  He asked for her mobile number several times and she always said no.  On the last day he came to her office, knowing her officemate was on leave, he closed the door, sat next to her and kept asking her out.  He asked her to pick up her phone and give him her number.  She finally caved and gave it to him.  He What’s Apped her and demanded that she read the message and reply.  He then asked her if she had another picture as her profile pic is one from when she way 3 or 4.  As she was telling me the story it just made my skin crawl.

She does not want to go to HR with this.  I told her if he emails or contacts her through What’s App, to notify me ASAP.  Even if it seems work related.  I also told her if she continues with us and he comes back to DC I will have to speak with him.  I cannot let this happen again.

Here is my dilemma, I want to respect her privacy but I had another admin come to me last week to tell me this same guy told her that her work was all moving to his office and asked her what she was going to do. She spent the night worried she was losing her job until she came in to speak to me the next day.   I believe he is up for a promotion this year and I can’t stand the thought of someone with such poor people management skills (on top of his other work issues) moving up.  Please note the way our company works his getting a promotion has no impact on me.  We would simply be peers. I lose nothing through his promotion (in case any of you think this is a jealousy thing).

He has two young women working with him in the other office.  They do not report to him but he is the highest ranking team member in that office.  They are both young and I worry about what is going on there.  I will be travelling to that office next month. I plan to check things out with my own eyes.

Do I just keep an eye on things for now (which is the way I am leaning) or do I need to report this guy.

The young woman is looking for a permanent job at our company and I understand she does not want to be embroiled in a sexual harassment case.

I've have seen a lot of things in my 16 years with this company but this is simply the worst. 
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