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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was assaulted under similar circumstances but never involved the police. Some people will question you and it is awful that your husband is that person. I would suggest discussing with a counselor individually then eventually involve him. While it sounds like he is blaming you he also may be blaming himself and not expressing it very well. Meaning he wished he could have prevented it.[/quote]

I think you are right - it is coming from a place of love from him. He worries about me and wishes it would never have happened and that he could have stopped it.  By involving cops, he wanted to make it right and restore my honor.  I knew it would work out the way it did, wasn't surprised at all that prosecuter didn't pursue the case.  I was actually relieved.  The hospital and cop process was horrifying and felt like another rape.  He didn't understand that I then and I'm not sure that he does now.  I really really didn't want to go - he basically bullied me into it.  I love him and this whole thing has just been an extreme stress on our relationship.  I hope therapy helps.  I've been in sessions for several months now and we had our first couples session 2 weeks ago. It went ok, though he told me beforehand that he doesn't want to talk about this in couples. So we will see.[/quote]

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