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We are fortunate to be able to afford a trip to the other side of the world, to visit family we haven't seen in 7 years.
My father was planning this trip, since he speaks the language and I don't. I thought he had worked out a reasonable balance of visiting family and sightseeing, and we were just about to make our reservations.

But... DH is having one of his moments, probably because he's a control freak and can't control this, not knowing the country at all. He declared family visits boring: hello - we've seen his family more often. He hates urban settings: this where my family lives, plus there are top-notch museums and amusement parks and my father has already included a side trip to a beautiful part of the countryside. DH wants to spend as little as possible and is threatening to veto the whole thing and not go: we had already gone over our budget and agreed that we could afford all of this and that it was important for the children to meet their great-grandparents. The point is, he's bullying me with yelling and threats instead of trying to convince me to change our plans to something else - because he doesn't really want something else, he just wants to throw his weight around. Not acceptable.

So I have to drop everything, and goodness know I have a ton of stuff to do right now, to look into the nitty-gritty of sightseeing attractions and travel logistics so that I can prove to him that there really are interesting things to do in this city, and that we don't have better options for the logistics. My father has told him all this, but apparently I need to spend hours doing extra research to shove it in his face again, and hope it will go down better coming from me. However I resent that I'm putting myself into this position where I have to make the extra effort, and not DH - we neither of us speak the language and I will have to parse through English travel websites or native translations just like he would need to. He should be making this effort, but I know he would really refuse to go rather than sit down and pore through travel websites. What an idiot.

OK, if I'm spending valuable time on this, he'll have to pick up the slack somewhere else, like make dinner AND wash up AND do laundry or something. No coming home from work and vegging out.
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