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[quote=Anonymous][quote]An earful from SAHMs? 
You just said your life is like getting dragged down Rockvile Pike, you are utterly exhausted, no sex life and up at 130 am doing chores. Sounds like a horrible way to live . 
I don't get why a SAHM would have anything to say about that.[/quote]

I was home full time for years. And my marriage looked like this. We were exhausted, we had a horrible intimate life, and the work...at home...was never ending. So, yeah. Being home wasn't the panacea for me.

Working gave me structure and made my DH help more because of necessity. It also killed our mutual resentment that the other had. Like the previous poster said, the grass is always greener. We just got on the same damn lawn.

Working was good from a practical standpoint.  I am saving for retirement and we are on track to retire at 60 (or continue to work as much or as little as we choose).  I am saving more for our family in the event of an emergency. We have college funds. It also lessened the wear and tear on our home. People don't realize it, but being home just adds to the amount of clean ups you have to do every day. The financial impact was so, so great. If you have to hire a cleaning service with a SAHP, you might want to look into the financial picture. My pay covers daycare, our health insurance, a full 17.5k into a 401k, and about 4k in college savings plan. That's a win for me. But I could easily portray my working as a break even or as losing money to pay someone else to raise my kids since we'd have to have insurance anyway and the savings isn't something you immediately feel.

Working absolutely saved my marriage and my sanity. I felt guilty, like I was a failure for a bit. But I realized being home isn't for everyone and that's okay. If you rock it, and enjoy it -- awesome. But for me, it was so bad. YMMV

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