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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let her go, Mom. It's time. You did a great job to have a kid confident enough to strike out on her own like that. [/quote]

Thanks but it isn't about "letting her go" to college -- it is the fear that she'll be gone for good.  Looking down the road, I don't want to be a long-dstance grandmother!!! [/quote]

I wish I could have you talk with my mother.  I'm her one and only, and I went a state away for college and have never moved back to my home state.  In fact, I've lived all over the country and traveled abroad for months at a time.  We're a short flight or long drive away from each other now.  I'm pregnant with my second.

My parents always told me that I should do or be whatever I wanted so long as I was happy and could support myself, and, by God, they stuck to it, even when my life has taken some unexpected twists and turns.  Never once have they guilted me over my choices, but they've been game to visit wherever I live, they call, they support, they send packages, they kept me updated during grandparent illnesses… I am very close to my parents, but I don't live near them.

Over the years, I've realized that I have plenty of friends who live far away from their parents who don't have the benefit of that support.  Don't be that parent.  You can have a good relationship with your daughter no matter where she lives--but not if you're making a fuss about where she lives.  You can tell her you'll miss her even as you tell her you're proud of her and support her, and I urge you to find your way down that path.[/quote]

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