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[quote=Anonymous]Hello looking for feedback and please be kind this is stressful enough. My aunt who also my godmother, her daughter is having a wedding in another state. I am actually okay with no kid weddings as it gets expensive etc etc. I was okay with going to this wedding(at my aunt's home)  but recently found out there will be kids there and it is an afternoon wedding and my aunt is cooking with some extra stuff brought in for a buffet. Wedding is in the afternoon. My point is that this is not a per head thing at a country club and there will be kids there (other cousins kids also young). My kids 6-9 are well behaved. This is a pretty objective statement as they are known for being calm/quiet.  To add to this, we have treated these relatives multiples times for vacations and we do that because we know there are financial things in play and it is nice to have your kids now relatives. Gotta tell you though that it hurts that the one time they could do something nice they are not.  My husband said no to going to the wedding now and I agree, it would bother me to see all those kids and think why not mine. To make matters worse, it is mother's day weekend (another thing that bothers me) and he is not willing to travel away without kids and go to a family wedding where it's obvious our kids are excluded. He thinks they are hoping for a nice check from us. He is annoyed and I understand. That being said he encouraged me to let it go, send a gift (not money) and just explain no travel without kids on Mother's day. He said getting into this and asking about it would just be a problem and so assign value to the relationship where it is. He is your typical guy and won't get into drama. I do go ahead and send regrets and a present and my aunt called and left a message that she was surprised we weren't coming. I would like to ask why not my kids but thinking of my husband's perspective. I guess I just say mother's day etc and let it go and think before I write a check for a vacation?
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