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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I'm not close with my parents. But my husband is super close with his - they talk almost daily. So he tells them most things - like when he was worried he was going to be laid off, when he was thinking about starting his own firm, when we absorbed a relatives baby into our family (we ALL had many talks about that as it was happening).

Every once in a while I ask him not to tell his parents things. I asked him way in the beginning to not discuss our sex life with them. I asked him not to tell his mom when I was scared to have sex after giving birth, for example.

[b]His parents are very supportive and good listeners. They're the type to say "It sounds like you've thought about this from every angle; I'm sure you'll make a great decision and make whatever decision you make work for you and the family; I love you no matter what." So overall super supportive. [/quote][/b]

I think this is the key.  My husband's mother was also like this and I loved talking to her.  My parents, on the other hand, have a critical and judgmental tone and offer countless "suggestions" that are filled with pressure if they are not taken.  So I often edit or gloss over issues because it's difficult to deal with their hectoring and know-betterism.  I've learned from therapy that it's a product of their anxiety, but it's still hard to take.  They can't even accept good news.[/quote]

My parents were supportive and loving.  They are deceased now and I miss them daily.
My In Laws are toxic evil spawns.  We don't tell them anything. MIL doesn't listen to 90% of what my husband says anyway.  My husband works for a security contractor in finance. My MIL thinks he is a security guard. We just let her think that.[/quote]

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