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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could you take what you would pay for rent each month and allocate 1/2 to a child's college savings account and 1/2 to personal travel?

Maybe each month you can do a long get away?  A week for a summer vacation?  [/quote]

OP: Tantalizing idea. If I could look forward to a monthly getaway, I might be able to hang on for four months without completely losing my shit. But then, I think that it would be sad to live that way for four months - not being happy in my own space and just looking forward to getting away.

[quote=Anonymous]I would not move in with them. You'll be miserable, and the strain will poison your relationships. You can financially afford to get your own place. You cannot afford to live with them for all the reasons you mention.

[b]And trust me, you don't want to do anything that they can use as leverage for moving in with you down the road. And start preparing your case against it. It sounds like your husband and his parents are from a culture where parents usually live with their grown kids after a certain age. If this is not what you want, you and he have to get on the same page, somehow. [/b][/quote]

OP:  I am really afraid of this. Once I left my parents' house, I knew I never ever again wanted to live with anyone except my spouse and kids. I feel I have worked too hard not to be comfortable in my own space. I don't want to have to deal with the inevitable fight over his parents moving in until I have to, but you are totally right, moving in with them now could give them leverage for emotional blackmail. [/quote]

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