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[quote=Anonymous]You know, it's hard to put a price on sanity.

It sounds like moving in with the ILs is a bad idea.

Get an apartment in the city.  Keep it minimal, have your privacy, be able to get out and about and see your friends.

Avoid the crazy additional relative, the second hand smoke, the ill behaved dog and its detritus, the lack of kitchen access.

When you talk to DH, tell him that you've realized after this weekend that there are just too many things that could go wrong and that it might permanently damage your relationship with the ILs, as generous as the offer is.  Tell him that you think having space will actually help in the long run.  Remind him that he'll be gone all day to his job, while you're there caring for an infant, and you just need your privacy and your space and your own support network of friends in the city.

If he balks, ask him to think about it--but be ready for this to be a hill to die on.  Better to have it out now then when you're actually in your ILs' house and want to flee.[/quote]

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