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[quote=Anonymous]My husband, child and I are moving from our current state to our in laws' state.  They have generously offered to let us live with them rent-free for four months until I start my job in a different part of the state.  They have also offered to let us use their spare car.  We would be splitting utilities and food bills, and paying for gas in the spare car.  In all, we would save about $20,000 if we live with them first than if we move into our own apartment immediately.

My husband is on board and I was too until this weekend.  We spent the weekend with them and that reminded me of why I am just not sure I would be happy there for five months:

--I don't particularly like the house. Their home is a little cluttered, cold, dingy, and covered in dog hair, and I am somewhat of a neat freak who loves to get a lot of light and air.  We would have our own bedroom, but I don't get the feeling they'd be okay with me redecorating the bedroom or making major changes to adapt it to my taste.
--They have an adult relative who still lives at home and smokes.  She is a sweetheart and never smokes in the house, but I worry about my son's exposure to the smoke on her clothes.  She also doesn't really get along with them and has been known to steal (but I don't think she would steal from my husband and I).
--They have this huge, constantly shedding, constantly drooling dog who they have not disciplined very well.  He snatches food from our plates at the first opportunity, chews up anything he can get his paws on, and keeps putting his mouth in my little son's face when I am trying to nurse, change, or just play with him.  I really wish they would keep him away from the living room, but they give him free rein of the house.  
--I love to cook, but so does my MIL, and we do not cook the same cuisines, so I would not feel comfortable in the kitchen unless she was at work.  
--My in laws live far from the city, so I would not be able to visit friends or have friends visit, except with a 1 hour trip. 
--I love to walk and push my son around, but their neighborhood has no sidewalks (I am not kidding -- no sidewalks at all), so I would have to drive 5 or 10 minutes just to take a walk with my son.
--My husband and his parents have been talking about all of us moving in together one day and I worry this is a trial run. I am not on board at all with all of us living together one day, especially since my in laws are hellbent on staying in the suburb where they live and I am not interested in living there.  I don't want to hear in 2 or 3 years time "Oh, but we let you live with us and it was great. Why can't we all move in?"

Apart from these big/small things, we all get along well and my husband and I could always use an extra 20k, even though we are not hurting financially.  They could see more of their grandchild and help out a bit with child care (not a lot though bc they both still work).

Would you all move in with them?[/quote]

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