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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish I was abandoned for good by my parents early on.  Instead, I had to deal with both coming and going my entire childhood through my early adulthood and treating me callously, until I cut them off. I remember coming home at age 5 to find my mother gone. It was weeks before I knew that she had left the country to escape my abusive father, leaving me completely at his mercy. My father was always getting put out of the house, or voluntarily leaving with  whoever his latest mistress was, for years at a time. And then he would return and my siblings and I would be forbidden from talking about his absence or acting as if anything was wrong. He beat my siblings and I, beat my mother. She beat us. We beat each other. Just an unstable, violent childhood characterized by both parents coming and going. They both meet the criteria for a couple of serious mental illnesses each.

Like the other posters in this thread, I am verrrry wary of people. I take a long time to open up and am always waiting for signs a person is untrustworthy. I am especially standoffish with women because my mother hurt and disappointed me the most because I loved and needed her more. People think I am stern and cold, but in reality, I am just hurt and cannot take any more betrayal. I have many acquaintances, but few friends.[/quote]

My childhood was very similar and i think it has impacted me in much the same way.  Letting people get close is just too dangerous, or at least that's how it feels.[/quote]

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