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[quote=Anonymous]I have a mentally ill family member I cut off contact with two years ago. The person would have these episodes and go on email sprees where she would email me (and others) a laundry list of things we said or did in our lives. Some things were going back twenty years.

So, I would receive an email saying how shitty I am, how I was a slut before marriage and slept with XX number of men (which the person completely made up), how I failed first year calculus, how I would have never amounted to anything without the person in my life. She would say: remember how you think your twin sister cannot be trusted. Remember you had a breast reduction etc. She would also write things like: I know you think Cousin Betty is a slut and Aunt Hilda is a bitch.... Most often I would just delete, delete. It often made no sense and was not true.

This went on for years, on and off. Sometimes we spoke depending on if the person was sober or on her medication. But for two years there has been zero contact.

MY QUESTION: I later found out, once the person got in a fight with most other family members too, that she would copy other people in these emails. So the email about my (fake) feelings about Aunt Hilda would be sent to Aunt Hilda and others. Same with Cousin Betty. 
Even emails that did not pertain to them were sent to them. Every time we got in a fight, she would cc them email copies of our email exchanges. 90% was lies. Some truth, though exaggerated. 
So, they would willingly read these and never asked her to stop sending them. I think they liked getting the dirt. Nobody talks to her anymore and I found out when they got in a fight with her. Then they told me, "oh she sent email copies of everything but I didn't believe most of it".
I LIKE these other people. However, it bothers me that for YEARS, they read those emails that were very personal. If it was me I would have said "stop sending me those, I don't want to read them".

OH and while the person was in Rehab, I lied to people about her whereabouts because she begged me to. YET, she told them all along, so I look like a liar.
How would you feel?

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