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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you cutting off the whole family if the MIL is the problem? Will they make it an issue at every event if MIL isn't invited?

I'd just caution you against cutting them all off unless they are equally horrible and won't respect your decision in your home. Your DH is more likely to feel resentful and not stay supportive over the long term if ALL of his family is cut off vs his mother not being invited to events at your home.

It is a BIG life decision to decide to cut off all family. It is going to rock his and your world in ways you aren't anticipating right now. You're going to have to be prepared to deal with feelings and changes as they develop.

For me, it would be easier to say "We are making this decision for a year. We'll reevaluate next year." BEcause one of the things that would make it hard for me to move on is that it is such a permanent decision. I'd always be wondering about what if circumstances change, what if DH starts to get resentful, etc.

When I'm dealing with a tough decision, it is helpful for me to realize most decisions aren't permanent. I find it useful to say "I'm making this decision for X period of time. I can always revisit later." Then I'm able to relax for that period of time, know that I haven't slammed the door, and be at peace with it not being too extreme. [/quote]

Excellent post. PP said it all.[/quote]

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