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[quote=Anonymous]Recently, my MIL went off on me. This is a common thing, that over the past 10 years, has happened about every 3 years. In all honesty, I don't know exactly why she doesn't care for me. I obviously have my own thoughts-- I have an education, I come from an educated, well respected family in our area, DH was an only child and I took him away, I am not the one/type she envisioned for him to marry-- but you would think after 10 years of being together, multiple children and 3 houses, that MIL would just realize and accept that I am here to stay. She hasn't come to that yet and I don't know if she ever will.

During the most recent time that she went off on me, she yelled constantly at the top of her lungs for about 20 minutes. She told me how I have ripped her family apart, how I have changed her son. She actually went as far to say that she hoped something or someone harmed me in the middle of the night. For the first time in my 10 year marriage with DH, I didn't say anything to her to persuade her or change her mind about her thoughts which is what I have normally done. However, you can't talk rational with an irrational person. A little more information: MIL treats everyone in her family similar to this-- she pitches a fit when she doesn't get her way and many people have been exposed to her wrath.

Long story short, I have decided that I will not tolerate her or DH's family any more. I don't believe that she has any justification for the way that she acts and I am so over being her punching bag for no reason. DH is in agreement with me after witnessing her hatred and believes that I shouldn't put up with it either. With that being said, none of his family is welcomed in our home, at birthday parties and I refuse to attend family gatherings with them around the holidays.

Even though I have finally decided to stand my ground and take care of myself, there is a small part of me that wishes that we could all get along and actually be a family. I never imagined that I would grow up and marry into a family who despises me. How can I get over the past and move on completely? [/quote]

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