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[quote=Anonymous]NP here. The MIL did arrange this visit ahead of time. OP says she texted DH, but he forgot to tell OP. So, that is his fault, and OP cannot be irritated with MIL for that.

Also, if DH said it wasn't a good time to visit, he should have held firm. It's not appropriate for the MIL to "persist" so much that DH gives in. But more importantly, DH needed to just tell her flat out no, and offer up a better time. It would have been easy enough to tell his MIL "We'll see you on Tuesday for dinner, so you can pick up your item then." Done.

I agree with you that your MIL shouldn't spring park visits on them in front of the kid. That is really rude. My FIL does similar things and it is very presumptuous.

But OP, this is all in your hands (and your husband's). If it's not a good time for a visit, make sure she knows it, and don't give in. Start setting more limits about how often you see her, if that's in fact an issue. It would be rude of you to say "you only get to see us when WE initiate a visit," but you could start declining some of her invitations and offering suggestions for better options. If I didn't want her taking my kid to the park, I would have told her "no, he can't go to the park right now because it's too close to dinner time. Do you want to take him tomorrow afternoon?" Your son understands that you and his dad make the rules. [/quote]

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