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Heads-up. This is her first grandchild, so expect her to make all the boundaries-related mistakes with you! My MIL is the most charming person in the world with me. But that's because I came in late on the scene, when she had already had it out with her other two DILs and their families! So MIL knows never to come uninvited, and to give us our own space.

I'm sure your scenario would be fine for many people, because it really doesn't sound as if your MIL was rude or overbearing in any way. She feels part of your family, and naturally expects to feel welcome. Short-sighted, perhaps, but see above.

However since I am a very private person, it would make me feel uncomfortable to have someone else constantly there besides DH and my children. FWIW, I feel that way towards nannies and housecleaners, which is why I have neither!

Since none of her behavior is egregious in any way, your DH should gently point out to her that coming by invitation is so much more practical. Then you would be able to receive her as she deserves! DS will have taken his nap, you will have prepared a little something, blah, blah, blah (whatever floats her boat). If she insists, then he has to say that all three of you really need to decompress at the end of the week and have a little time to yourself as a nuclear family.

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