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[quote=Anonymous][[b]quote=Anonymous]As. Mom of a young adult with a disability, I would say to first of all find a resourxe person who who could assess the girl's life skills and then work with the parents to develop a plan for learning the skills.  It would seem to make the most sense to develop the basic skillsK in the home setting.   THe girls would be taught and then expected to handle increasing aspects of daily living skills.  It would help if she could have a separate space of her own perhaps a bedroom and bath to care for. It may be a very basic list to start and build over time.  I do think it is important to impress upon the young woman how her hard work has paid off so far.  Set some goals with her with some positive rewards as skills are acquired.   I think helping her to develop the appropriate social skills with peers will be key to helping her continue to move forward.  Encourage Mom to be willing to work with the girl and remember in this skills area she may well be like a 10 or 11 year old being shown
- how to shower, wash hair etc.
- how to buy her basic clothes
- how to do her laundry
- how to do basic cleaning take such as dusting, vacuuming, changing a bed, cleaning bathroom etc.
- how to cook basic items which could include doing dinner one night a week in time - focus on simple meals she could learn to prepare safely 
- how to set up a budget
- how to set up and follow a calendar with work, school, medical, family and social events on it

Just some idea of things she will need to learn in time.  Encourage here to invite individuals she might work with or go to school with to her home with Mom guiding on things they might do. Such as renting a movie and ordering favorite food in.  See if there are any social programs for young adults with disabilities on her skill level in the area she might join,  What about doing some Special Olymics sports training?  If it is hard for her to make friends, would she enjoy volunteering with a certain program as that could also help her to develop every day "soft skills"

I would say the fact she has a job is a most important first step and you simply build from there by letting here kow she is an adult living it home now and she will be responsibilities which hopefully in time she will be able to transfer to a more independent living setting.
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Mother of adult aspie here.  And what do you do if they just refuse to learn?  or take care of themselves?  or eat right?  or exercise?  Or do ANY of the things  you mention above and you are also taking care of other SN kids.  What then?  Her shrink says "our expectations are too high".  Her I.Q. is high enough for mensa but she won't get out of bed and initiate anything.  What then?  And yes she's on meds.[/quote]

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