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[quote=Anonymous]My mother in law passed away recently. She had made a will 4 years ago, when she first got sick, in which she asked my SIL/BIL to take her dog after she died.  The dog is 9 years old, very large and very hairy. Since then, SIL/BIL have had a set of twins and their own dog is getting old.  It would be very hard for them to take MIL's dog. We too are not in a position to take on another dog.  A friend of MIL's graciously offered to adopt him.  The offer was totally unprompted, and the friend had no idea that we were struggling with what to do with the dog. We all agree that this friend would give the dog a great home and that MIL would be happy with this solution.

Here's the issue. I happen to know that this friend has had some financial struggles in the past. She has a home and food on the table and all of that, but she is retired and of course food, vet bills, etc. for a large, aging dog are not cheap.  I'm wondering if we should offer the friend some money for the dog's care. DH and SIL are fine with paying whatever is needed but they think it would offend the friend to offer.  They say she must be able to afford it since she offered to adopt him so readily.

At this point, the friend has taken "custody" of the dog and he is getting settled in his new home. I would have to call or text the friend to offer $. I feel like j should. I'm certainly not going to go against DH and SIL's wishes but I think I could convince them. What do you all think?  Should I make the offer?  If so, how should I word it so that she doesn't automatically say no?  (She is very generous.) If you think I should offer, how much do you think we should send?  The dog's been pretty healthy so far but he is getting older.

Thanks for your opinions.[/quote]

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