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[quote=Anonymous]15:07 again.  There are several books aimed at very young kids that talk about DE as a part of a story, in an age-appropriate way.  I like "Mommy, Was Your Tummy Big?"  There are other books too.

I'll tell you how we are handling this, but this is very specific to our situation.  DC2 is a toddler.  DC1 (OE) is in elementary school.  We have not told DC1, but will tell at the same time we tell DC2.  We've been introducing DC1 to the books "It's Not the Stork" and "It's So Amazing", which are all about puberty and reproduction, and they're aimed at young kids.  In the near future, we are going to start reading "Mommy, Was Your Tummy Big" with DC2 and DC1.  We can give DC1 more information if she has questions, since she's beginning to understand the basics of reproduction.  DC2 will also know, since it will be part of the ongoing conversation we have with her as she grows up.

As with adoption, I think it's best if the children know early, so that it's always part of their story.

We have not told our extended family, and we have exactly two friends who know that we used DE.  We know that in telling our DCs it could come out to other people we haven't told, but that's not going to change our plans to tell them.[/quote]

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