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[quote=Anonymous]He can be upset about it - - that's to be expected and shows he is competitive.  But, this is a good teaching moment  - in all sports you have to be able to put the mistakes behind you and move forward.  Usually, very quickly.  A golfer who is mad about missing an easy putt may well blow his/her tee shot on the next hole.  A basketball player who misses a shot can't let that prevent him from taking a good shot the next time down the floor, a baseball player who swings at a bad pitch can't let that keep him from concentrating on the next one.

At 9 he is going to make lots of mistakes that are purely his, e.g. let a ball go through his hands.  The result of those mistakes is often going to mean giving up a goal.  What he can do is continue to work, practice and learn about his position and the techniques used to play it so that he gets better and better at it.  What you can do is work with him to become a more confident and better keeper.  There are lots of keeper clinics and keeper trainers out there who offer lessons.  It is a tough position and it has its unique tactics and skill sets that do not get addressed much (or at all) in team practices.

Finally, at 9 some kid may say something about making a mistake, but that stuff stops pretty quick.  Soccer is a team game where all the players make mistakes.  Giving up a goal is usually the result of a series of errors made by various players along the way.  And, of course, your team could have always scored more goals too.

If he is still upset about it today -- spend a few minutes and look up some keeper bloopers on youtube.  Even the best keepers in the world will make a silly mistake from time to time.

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