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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is the same way (well, except that he is overweight & his vitals aren't fine).

I let him know that I am happy to support him in whatever way he prefers -- buying specific healthy foods, not buying specific unhealthy foods, nagging or not nagging, whatever. And then I shut the heck up.

I am not his mom. He is a grownup, and he's never going to maintain any kind of healthy routine if it's externally imposed by me -- it has to be something he's motivated to do.

Does it make me sad that he's not more motivated to stay healthy for me & our kids? Yep. But again, grownup.[/quote]

Same here. I only make healthy food at home (and so does he) but its when he goes out to lunch with his coworkers every day that he eats like crap - wings, pizza, etc. I'm not really gentle about it and will tell him to stop eating that shit for lunch because he's going to have a heart attack. He has been better lately - even sends me pictures of his salads. But he always goes back..[/quote]

I eat really healthy and my DH is a mixed  bag so I understand where you are coming from.

Since you are so critical about what he eats, (how do you even know? Do you interrogate him about what he eats?) he feels even more compelled to eat it at work since you are nitpicking what he is eating at home.  Just leave him alone.

DH travels for work 4 days a week and when he described his diet to me my eyes nearly popped out of my head but I kept my mouth shut.  Pastries and juice for breakfast, greasy sandwich/fries for lunch and some kind of takeout for dinner.  I didn't shame him but really supported his efforts to eat better.  Now he packs lunch from home to take (he drives a few hours to his project rather than flying) for 2-3 days, or eats those meals for dinner.  He stays at a hotel where he can have oatmeal, egg whites, and fruit for breakfast. He gets junky takeout a couple times a week but now sticks to salads mostly.   A huge change without shaming him and making him feel disgusting. [/quote]

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