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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I know it sounds stupid that I was getting irked he was getting "credit" for doing dishes, but it really was about - he could do the easy parts of the job and feel like he was contributing, while really leaving more of a mess for me. So I totally feel you OP. [/quote]

Yes, this is exactly how I feel. It does make me feel silly, but it still gets on my nerves.

[quote] My DH is a great guy, so a direct conversation is all it took. But I resisted because I just wanted him to know - failing approach. Just be direct and ask for exactly what you want him to do, in a nice way. My DH will absolutely help with anything I ask for, but he has no problem being completely oblivious if I don't ask with extreme clarity.[/quote]

This is the issue, so I guess I do need to just spell it out for him. But I hate that, it makes me feel like I'm talking to a child. Sometimes he'll be in the room next to me, but he can be pretty oblivious. But literally he only seems to notice I'm cleaning when I'm basically done! His timing is impeccable.

[quote] What is he doing when you're doing all that cleaning? [/quote]

Sometimes he's doing work on the computer. Sometimes he's watching TV. Or doing something in the garage. I throw the kids in the bathtub and let them play (aka, wear themselves out) while I go back downstairs to clean up. [/quote]

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