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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Is he depressed? Has he always been this way? Must be pretty sad to have to live inside his head. [/quote]

I don't know if he's depressed.  He's always been sort of rigid, but the negativity has escalated over the years that we have been married.  [/quote]

It's only going to get worse. My wife is the same way. Everyone is always an idiot, she is quick to annoyance and always goes right to the worse-case scenario in every crisis, no matter how minor. She has a lot of conflicts, real or perceived, with other people -- especially other women. And, yes, I've heard her speak ill of other children too, sometimes within earshot of our children.

We've been married for 13 years. I didn't notice this at first, but it's become steadily worse over the years. She has a quick temper, is wont to storm out of a room, and she gaslights -- you're the sensitive one if you call her out on her behavior. She's also a micromanager -- she not only wants to tell you what to do but how to do it.

I mention these other characteristics just in case they match your own -- not to rag on my wife.

I will be honest that I tune it out a lot. I sit there and pretend to listen. I never argue with it or engage anymore. Instead, I've tried to focus on trying to remain positive in outlook, especially with the children, so they do not end up like her.

And, yes, it's exhausting. [/quote]

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