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BOTH sets of grandparents live nearby.  We are in the middle, but are closer, distance-wise to my IL.  Still, about a 40 minutes each way.

It's tough.

One advantage is that I do not have to "host" visiting in laws for overnights or longer.  I couldn't do that, psychologically!

My ILs come to everything (all kids' sports games) and expect to be invited to everything (performances, school events, etc.) but I no longer even convey this information to them.

I have to establish clear boundaries with my ILs because they are give an inch/take a mile type.  Seeing them at sporting events every weekend is about all I can take.

My own parents are elderly and in poor health.  One of my parents has Alzheimer's.  Still, the pressure is on for me to  visit/help/support them.

My in laws complain that we don't see them/do things with them often enough.
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I should clarify that I have two teens and a middle schooler.  When we had very young children, we did have either/both sets of grandparents babysit - even for weekends away sometimes.  Oddly, both sets of grandparents always, always insisted that the grandchild(ren) would come to their house.  This got to be an incredibly difficult arrangement as the children got older, especially when the idea was the entire weekend at grandparents' house/so no birthday parties for friends/sports games, etc.  Not part of the bargain for the grandparents.  We used the grandparents less and less...too much hassle and easier to hire a neighborhood sitter for a few hours.  [/quote]

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