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[quote=Anonymous]It's possibly depression.  Is he under more stress now than he used to be?

But a lot of it is just how he learned to manage anger.  I get it.  I don't manage it well, either.  I had to really re-learn how I dealt with anger when I had a kid and saw my kid imitating me.  Not pleasant.

I'd do two things in your shoes.  One, if you really want to stay, see if there is a way you can shut it down when it happens.  That could mean quietly saying, "I'm not going to participate in this discussion any longer until you can be respectful, both in words and mannerisms."  Or however "you" would say that.  And leave.    He might clue in finally, that it's a problem.  And maybe he'd be more willing to work on his behavior.

If not, you could say it's the end of the road.   That might scare him into changing.  But if you go this far, you need to be prepared to truly leave.   If you threaten and don't follow through, he will never change.  He knows all it means is an argument or two and then things go back to normal.[/quote]

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