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[quote=Anonymous]My sister has not visited me in 7 years.  Before that, it was probably 7 years since the last time she visited. I have two kids under 7 and she has a tween and a teen so it's easier for her to travel.  She doesn't seem the least bit interested in visiting, as if she has no obligation to reciprocate. She lives near my parents who moved to be near her, across the country from me.  So I have no family here. My parents visit me about once a year and up until I had another kid, I had been visiting all of them about once a year. So it's been like almost 3 years since I have seen my sister, the last time was when I flew out there.  When I act like I want her to visit, she makes excuses like she has no money, or that she has to visit her ILs. (Who really wants to visit their ILs anyway?) Then she got some money, and claimed she was going to visit, which was the first time she ever seemed like it might happen. Instead, she took a tropical vacation with her DH and kids.  I felt like we were close growing up, and it's just disappointing that visiting each other is one sided.  Now I feel like I have to visit them again, even though it's long overdue for her turn to visit us.  Otherwise she seems to keep in touch, but not as often as I keep in touch with her.  I feel like it's a regular blow to my feelings. When I complain to my parents, they defend her. I don't even know what my question is.  Do I once again visit even though it's more of a pain for us to travel? Or make a stink that it's not fair she doesn't visit and that it makes me feel bad? It seems rude and insensitive to me like I don't matter to her and I've put up with it a long time.[/quote]

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