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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BREAK UP NOW!!!!! Read all the threads about sexless marriages- they are a time machine to your future if you marry this man.

I know of what I speak. I married a man who seemed great but the sex was lackluster. I thought, well, maybe amazing sex is not the most important thing in a lifetime partnership, maybe it will get better over time as we grow into our marriage, maybe I don't need sex as much as I think I do. The answer is NO, it is not okay. I grew resentful because I did want satisfying sex, and then my sex drive did die because it was so frustrating to never be really satisfied. I tried telling him directly what I liked, showing him, asking about fantasies, etc but he was not interested in responding. Not only was he sexually unsatisfying, I realized after years of this that it's a sign of larger personality flaws too- selfishness, lack of emotional connection and empathy, rigid thinking, etc.

Do yourself and him a favor and end it now. Life is way too long to trap yourself into bad sex.[/quote]

Op again.

I think that breaking up (in my case) is drastic. He has made great efforts to improve[/quote]

I am this PP. Just be honest with yourself about the improvement before you commit. Are you so satisfied that the thought of another man doesn't even enter your head?

Breaking up now is ten trillion times less drastic and devastating than getting divorced in 10 years when you have a couple of little kids and entangled finances and you are so full of buried resentment that you are depressed and all your love for him has died, and he is cheating because you never have sex anymore.[/quote]

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