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[quote=Anonymous]So, pride goeth before a fall, right?  I have sometimes extolled my MIL's virtues here on DCUM over the years and really did not understand the bad MIL stories.  Now, I am eating humble pie.

I asked H's parents to do an alcohol intervention with me.  MIL did it, but she first cast about for reasons why he drinks, including that I made him insecure because before we were married he told her how smart and successful I was and he was worried about that.  The drinking is my fault, apparently.  After he denied he was an alcoholic, she tried to convince me that he wasn't and said he was just depressed or whatever.  She seemed satisfied that I was off the mark.

Now that we have separated, she has been awful.  First, she texted H that this must be because of my hormones and once you get the hormones involved there is no way to get the emotions in check.  She also texted H that he would be so much better off when this mess was behind him.  Then, she texted me, saying that H said he had made some mistakes but he said he had never been unfaithful so I should just work it out with him.  Um, hello?  What did you think was going to happen if the intervention failed and he didn't stop emotionally and verbally abusing me and the kids???

Now, she insists that everything she gave us, including furniture, during the marriage was really a gift solely to him and not to the both of us, and therefore none of it counts as marital property.  Sure.  That's why it was in my house for months before H moved in.  OK.  There was even an effort to say that things she had given me for birthday presents were really for him.  Even he couldn't pull that one off with a straight face.

Here's the thing:  H wants to try to reconcile.  I don't know if we can.  He has a lot of issues to address.  Assuming he could address them, however, how can I ever be in the same room with this woman?  I really don't know what she is thinking.  Has anyone ever separated, had this kind of MIL behavior, and been able to overlook it when they reconciled?[/quote]

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