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[quote=Anonymous]35, female.

I like OKCupid MUCH better than Match. Granted, I tried Match first and probably hadn't gotten into the 'swing' of online dating yet, so take that into account.

Match was depressing. It's a much smaller pool, and so you keep seeing the same profiles over and over again.

After 4 or so months on OKCupid, I've been out with 6 different guys (some a few times). After the same amount of time on Match, I'd been out with 1. I will say that the one guy from Match and I made it last longer than anyone has on on OKCupid, but that was due to mutual compatibility, not the site.

The volume on OKCupid just makes a difference. I message men more rarely than I did on Match, I'm still replying to ~10% of the messages I receive, and there are probably still at least 20 guys on there that I have bookmarked or liked or somehow flagged that I would be interested to go back and message in the future.

It's good that you are trying both at once, OP. Just remember to keep a really, really open mind. Reply to messages from anyone who you find somewhat attractive who is absent major deal-breakers and actually sends decent messages.

Date the people you can see spending a few interesting hours with after the messaging process. Profiles can be misleading, and often, a great profile is the sign of someone who is great at presenting themselves, not someone who is actually great themselves. Messaging is a much better gauge because there's 2-way back and forth, and they are actually responding to you, not just saying what they think women will find appealing.

There's no substitute for in-person chemistry though, and it does not always translate from digital chemistry. Meet people after like a week-10 days of daily messaging. Also, this helps you weed out the flakes. I have had no less than 4 different men flake on dates that they themselves initiated. Married/attached and testing the waters? Not who they said they were? Who knows, but the sooner you find out, and stop wasting time messaging with them, the better. Luck![/quote]

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